A MUM has sparked a debate after she revealed how she told another mum off for not putting her “kids first”.
Taking to parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman said that she had spoken to another mum who claimed she didn’t “have any money to buy her kids some new school shoes”.
The mum had become riled after hearing what the other woman’s money went on[/caption]
But, the poster became riled after the fellow mum divulged that one of her family members “was on holiday and was getting her some cigarettes and alcohol” that she was paying for.
Taking to the forum, the angered woman wrote: “Yesterday I was meeting with some friends one of which I’m not as close with but she always tags along which is fine.
“We got onto the subject and she said how she doesn’t have any money to buy her kids some new school shoes.
“Before that topic had came up she was saying how a family member was on holiday and was getting her some cigarettes and alcohol and it was really cheap. (She was paying for it)
While some claimed the woman had been ‘rude’ to say anything, others said she was in the right[/caption]
“Usually I bite my tongue but she just p***** me off.
“I said to her how about maybe she should stop drinking and smoking and buy her kid the new school shoes they need.
“She only has two kids. She was a bit gobsmacked.
“Didn’t really say much just made up an excuse and left.
“Am I the only one bothered by the fact that people not putting their kids first and complain about the kids not having any nice clothes etc when they spend a majority of their money on stuff they don’t really need?”
Needless to say, many other parents were quick to wade into the debate – and many blasted the poster as “rude”.
One wrote: “Yabu [You are being unreasonable]. What she does with her money is none of your business.
“You were very rude and you sound a bit smug.”
Another agreed, saying: “Think what you like but you were rude – especially as others were there.”
And yet another added: “It’s none of your business and you were rude. You will have upset her, but that’s OK because you get to feel all pleased and righteous with yourself.”
But many agreed with the original poster.
Elementree said: “Urgh, I think I’m in the midst of a sea change on this one.
“Normally, I’d be saying that you shouldn’t judge but, no, f***it.
“If someone is serving their desire for fags and booze before their children’s need for shoes and are stupid enough to whine about it in front of others then I think yeah, I’d have struggled not to point that out too.”
Another wrote: “YANBU [you are not being unreasonable] people’s priorities are different but providing your kids with food, clothes and shoes should come top of the list for any parent. Buying booze and fags while your kids go without is incredibly selfish.”
A third added: “I definitely would have judged her! Cigarettes and alcohol are luxuries and if she can’t afford basics then I don’t think it’s unreasonable to point that out to her.”
What do you think?
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